Lately, I've been thinking a lot about my life, my interests, my goals and the things I want to accomplish. I’m at the point in my life where I’m focusing more on what I want. This can sound selfish, but we came to this world to follow our dreams and do what makes us happy. Because we are midway through the year, I start to reflect on the year I've had so far and what I want to improve in the next six months. I've found that if you change the way you think, you can change your little by little. I'm sharing with you the things that have helped me improve my life.
1 | PLAN AROUND YOUR DREAMS/GOALS
Did you read that correctly? Emphasize in ‘YOUR’. What do you want in life? What's your passion? What makes you happy? What are your goals? Once you’ve figured this out, plan AROUND it.
I always try to plan my weeks or months in advance to have a clear understanding of the things I need to do. If I have a goal in mind that I want to accomplish during that month, I plan my life around it. For example, I’m a web developer at a consulting firm. Because I’m in the technology industry, which changes every day, I need to keep up to date with the languages to build websites and applications. I try to schedule one or two hours a day to learn these new technologies and practice them. I like to study during the week at night, so I plan accordingly. If a friend invites me to dinner or to happy hour in advance, I schedule my study time during lunch time or in the morning. If I didn’t have time to squeeze my study time during the day, I say no. Which takes me to the next point…
2 | LEARN TO SAY NO
It is ok to say no and you shouldn’t feel bad. No is a word that I’ve been adding to my vocabulary lately. I’m that person that hates to say no to a friend. I’m that person that feels bad when I can’t go out. FOMO anyone? But I’ve learned to say no because I’m at a point in my life where I want to focus on myself and my goals. I’m driven and I want to accomplish a lot of things by the time I’m 40, so in order to do this, I have to say no from time to time. There is no point of drinking every day after work – at least for me. I’m not saying that I never go out. I do. I love having a glass of wine with my friends, but I don’t make it a habit of doing it every day because there are other things I rather be doing.
3 | DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS SAY ABOUT YOU
When I was younger, I used to worry a lot about what others thought about me. Not anymore. I’ve learned that you only have to worry about you and about what makes you happy. This is difficult to adapt, but if we keep worrying about what others think, we will never do anything. People will always have something to say, but you shouldn’t focus on that. Focus on your goals and what makes you happy.
Changing these thoughts helped me change my life and I’m happy because I’m focusing on myself. What thoughts have you changed to improve your life? Tell me your thoughts below!